There are many resources available that discuss known characteristics of Indigo. These observations can be made about many enlightened individuals, and have actually caused great debate toward parents just looking to find an excuse to explain away behavior. However, if you find you or your child aligns with most of the traits listed below, we believe it is the baseline in finding the assumption of “being Indigo” to be true.
GoIndigo™ provided the list of 11 common traits to Arnette Lamoreaux, author of The Indigo Soul: a child’s journey to purpose, and asked her how these traits were applicable to her Indigo son and daughter.
1) May be strong willed independent thinkers who prefer to do their own thing rather than comply with authority figures/parents.
a. In my son's world, homework was not worth his time, so he just didn’t bother to do it. When teachers would approach him about being late handing in assignments or not handing them in at all, he would totally acknowledge what they were saying. Always polite and respectful, he would look them right in the eye a make them believe he would take action right away. Instead he would immediately forget about it.
b. My daughter cannot tolerate adults that demand respect but don’t earn it. She is dismissive and will not be bothered with any adult that does not treat her as an equal.
2) Have a wisdom and level of caring beyond their youthful experience.
a. I was getting ready for work and being overly critical of my appearance, especially extra weight from having a baby. My son told me, “no worries mommy, it’s just part of life.” (age 7)
b. My daughter has always loved babies. When she held them in her arms she told me “this is when they remember how important it is to love.”
3) Traditional Parenting and discipline strategies don’t appear effective with these children. If you try to force an issue, a power struggle is the typical outcome.
a. As punishment for bad grades, I took away electronics: TV, computer, phone, but my son didn’t care. He’d just cock an eyebrow and shake his head.
b. I learned long ago with my daughter how important it was to provide full disclosure. “Because I said so” doesn’t work with Indigo. Explaining what was going to happen, setting her expectations, was all she really needed. Suppressing their spirit is the biggest mistake we make; it’s we who must change, not them.
4) Energetically, Indigos are vibrating at a much higher frequency so they can get scrambled by negative energy (human or machine).
How was your day? This is a typical question that parents ask after a day at school. My experience: silence in the car, straight to their bedroom, and when they were ready, they would venture out and have conversations. Too many people. Too much energy all day long. They just needed to come home and decompress. At first I took it personally, like they didn’t want to share with me. That wasn’t it at all. They literally felt like they were about to explode. They feel everything so much more deeply. The things we just brush off and don’t take personally, they take very personally.
5) Emotionally they can be reactive and may have problems with anxieties, depression or temper rages if not energetically balanced.
The temper tantrums when they were little were crazy: destroying a bedroom, ripping up photographs. That frustration moved one of my children to binge on food. Addictions are common to “dull the emotions” or “hide in a fog” because they don’t understand why they feel everything “more” than others. Making sure chakras are open for energy to flow is important. Redirecting energy into other activities such as hiking, yoga, meditation at a young age would have been so easy when they were little. I wish I had known how important being outside was. I would have planned more activities outdoors, especially around the water.
6) Are creative right brain thinkers, but may struggle to learn in a traditional left brain school system.
My kids are 3D learners. Anything they can touch, build, or interact with is usually a success. Sit at a desk, read, and fill out a paper? Not so much. It is very frustrating for teachers when these kids have such aptitude and just don’t do it. We need to figure out how to appeal to their learning style, and unfortunately most school systems are not structured that way.
7) Often Indigos are diagnosed with ADD and ADHD since they appear impulsive (their brain can process information faster) and they require movement to help keep them better focused.
Neither of my kids have ADD/ADHD however they still disengaged; mostly by daydreaming. Our school systems are geared toward a population that was meant to function in a confined space. We need to assess learning styles in the early grades and have curriculum paths available. These kids are no longer the exception, they will be the norm.
8) Indigos are very intuitive, and may see, hear, or know things that seem unexplainable.
My daughter asked me if I was in the hallway outside of her bedroom since she heard the voice of a woman singing along to the country music she was listening to. It wasn’t me. I wasn’t even in the house.
9) Indigos have more problems with food and environmental sensitivities, since their system is more finely tuned.
I’ve been very fortunate in that regard as neither of my kids are allergic to any foods. What I do find more interesting is sensitivities to other things. My son had to wear ear plugs throughout Disney World, the sounds were overwhelming. My daughter wore her clothing inside out for years, including her socks. Tags or stitching of any kind would drive her crazy. Also, her sense of smell is ridiculously acute. Both of my children feel suffocated in crowds. And the necessity for people in public places to respect their personal space is evident.
10) When their needs are not met, these children seem self centered and demanding, although this is not their true nature.
My daughter really tries to run the show and expects the rest of us to revolve around her. There is no malicious intent. She just has a very strong sense of self. Many people are intimidated by that, adults included.
11) These children have incredible gifts and potential, but they may be shut down when not properly nurtured and accepted.
My son went from a socially active kid to being withdrawn, disinterested and self-doubting. At the same time becoming introspective and acutely aware. I kept trying to parent/coach/mentor the way my parents did for me. I kept placing expectations on him based on what other kids his age were doing, what he was “supposed” to be doing. My son doesn’t drink, doesn’t smoke, doesn’t party, doesn’t loiter, isn’t promiscuous. Many things that “normal” teenagers and young adults do as part of growing up. Why not? He says “been there, done that.” Best thing I ever did was take him out of a traditional school setting. He’s always thought other kids his age (at every age) did stupid and ridiculous things.